>> July 29, 2009
As I have gone through my multiple jobs since High School, I have noticed something about myself, that is different than others. Something that I'm not like oh, that makes me so cool and different, uh no, the complete opposite, it makes me different, I'm learning, in a not so good way. At least, sorta. You see, I can't suck up. I just can't. I can pull it off in an Interview, not that you really have to suck up in an Interview, but I can be full of pretty words, and know what the right things to say are when I first meet someone.. but its after, that I struggle with. I'm not one of those people that can really suck up to a teacher, or a boss, and make them think the world of you. Its like I was born without the brown-noser gene.
I used to, and somewhat still do, take pride in this. Yes, if you're my boss, you're going to know that I like you, and respect you, but I'm not going to worship or flatter you to no end. As someone that has been in charge of people before, I thought that it was okay to not suck up to the boss. Because when people DID suck up to me, even if they were elderly senior citizen missionaries, I could still see right through them. Even thinking about that gives me a bad taste in my mouth.
However, I've also noticed, that sucking up can be a good thing, for example at one of my previous jobs, it was the only way people ever got to move up the ladder. I'm not even sure how I got moved up in that company, because I wasn't always flattering the boss, some people even called her "mom", which I'm still not sure what that accomplished. These people did get paid more than me though, so perhaps I should have paid more attention.
Maybe it all comes down to not wanting to be the Teacher's pet in Grade School? I don't know, but if anyone knows the cure.. or struggles with the same problem, leave me a comment.
Maybe we could form a support group.
I found this site: How to Suck up without Looking like you're Sucking up.