Is there a class for that?
>> July 29, 2009
As I have gone through my multiple jobs since High School, I have noticed something about myself, that is different than others. Something that I'm not like oh, that makes me so cool and different, uh no, the complete opposite, it makes me different, I'm learning, in a not so good way. At least, sorta. You see, I can't suck up. I just can't. I can pull it off in an Interview, not that you really have to suck up in an Interview, but I can be full of pretty words, and know what the right things to say are when I first meet someone.. but its after, that I struggle with. I'm not one of those people that can really suck up to a teacher, or a boss, and make them think the world of you. Its like I was born without the brown-noser gene.
I used to, and somewhat still do, take pride in this. Yes, if you're my boss, you're going to know that I like you, and respect you, but I'm not going to worship or flatter you to no end. As someone that has been in charge of people before, I thought that it was okay to not suck up to the boss. Because when people DID suck up to me, even if they were elderly senior citizen missionaries, I could still see right through them. Even thinking about that gives me a bad taste in my mouth.
However, I've also noticed, that sucking up can be a good thing, for example at one of my previous jobs, it was the only way people ever got to move up the ladder. I'm not even sure how I got moved up in that company, because I wasn't always flattering the boss, some people even called her "mom", which I'm still not sure what that accomplished. These people did get paid more than me though, so perhaps I should have paid more attention.
Maybe it all comes down to not wanting to be the Teacher's pet in Grade School? I don't know, but if anyone knows the cure.. or struggles with the same problem, leave me a comment.
Maybe we could form a support group.
I found this site: How to Suck up without Looking like you're Sucking up.
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3 comments:
I think it depends on the boss, maybe? I've never felt the need t o suck up to any of my bosses anyways...
I used to be in charge at one point in college and the ones that did suck up to me just irritated me more. But I agree with Amber, it really depends on the boss. Sometimes they like it and sometimes they hate it.
I think there is a difference between sucking up and doing a good job. Sucking up is dishonest in a way. Sucking up is usually not job related. And if it is job related then you might be doing a disservice to your co-workers. You might be putting them down by saying 'look at me....look what I did, I am so good.'
But I think you can doing a super good job at your job because you want to do a good job! Because you take pride in doing a good job. Usually the boss will know when you are sucking up and if they are a very good boss they will look beyond the sucking up and look at your performance! I think there is a fine line between sucking up and showing respect and doing a good job. But sometimes you also have to nudge your boss so they see you are doing a good job so you can be noticed. Sometimes they just don't notice. And sometimes they just need to be reminded or shown so you can get the position or pay or recognition that you deserve!
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